A missed oportunity
Today, kids barely play outdoors anymore, though free play is extremely important for a balanced development. Schools are overwhelmingly large, non-personal and create, in general a lot of pressure for children. Competition instead of cooperation is often the primary focus. Competition alienates children’s from each other, ruins friendships and creates negativity. Fear of failure or success and lack of self-esteem can be the result.
Children learn to have respect for winners. But what about the “losers”? Dont they deserve respect too? And…WHAT makes someone a loser anyway? What about teaching compassion and appreciating each other’s diversity?
The judgmental system about good and bad behavior teaches disrespect and intolerance. Bad behavior is often a result of unmet needs. Needs related to safety (group-pressure, bullying, family-issues, a father that left) acceptance (being criticised many times a day) peacefulness (fighting parents at home)?
School could be the place for compassion and joy, in addition to solely pointing the focus towards academics. A missed opportunity in learning compassion and respect.