Getting your needs met without being angry
Heartbased parenting, family constellations
We can never REALLY expect anybody to do something they don’t want to comply with, other then using coercion/ threat which is violent. Being punished or rewarded for every step you take takes away the natural joy and behavior of ‘just doing it’.
Requesting respectfully based on compassion and awareness of each other’s needs creates easy compliance. The model of Crystal Clear Communication is a great tool to realize that. Not to please each other to get something out of it, but to please because it is great to do something for someone else. The joy of the mitsvah/a good deed. Just a higher level of conscious living.